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The Possibility Bar: Why You Can’t Learn to Succeed from Successful People (and What to Do Instead)

I just got back from vacation and I read this book called The Third Door by Alex Banayan. He’s this 20-year old guy who was lying in bed at college thinking about what he was going to do with his life. He didn’t want to just go work for some big corporation.

And so, he asked himself, “How can I find out how THE most successful people become successful?”

To find out, he decided to get interviews with people like Warren Buffett and Lady Gaga and Sugar Ray Leonard and some of the most well-known musicians, artists, politicians, investors and entrepreneurs of all time.

This turned into a 7 year journey for Alex. In many cases, he failed to get the interview or it took him years and years to get it but — overall — he got to talk to a whole bunch of successful people.

Here’s what he learned: It wasn’t advice from these famous people that would unlock his whole life and make his future roll out before him like a red carpet. It was how he changed in the process of getting those interviews that mattered — how he had to uplevel his actions and beliefs to talk to interview someone like Bill Gates and Quincy Jones.

These changes created a new sense of possibility for him.

Alex realized that he could give people the world’s BEST success advice from the world’s most successful people but they’d still feel stuck, if their possibility bar isn’t high enough.

Success happens when people get to the top of their possibility bar – when they uplevel what they feel is possible, what they believe is possible.

That’s when they really start to change their lives.

Every single one of us has the ability to make new choices in our life at any moment of the day. We don’t have to stay stuck in the realm of what we believe is possible now. We can constantly uplevel what we believe is possible.

Those choices that you make every single day impact your life AND have the power to skyrocket your success.

In his book, Alex remembered this great quote by Dumbledore from Harry Potter…

“It’s our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”


When you change what you believe is possible, you change what becomes possible and all of a sudden, your possibility bar gets so much higher.

All of a sudden you’re reaching new heights.

So, here’s a question for you – are you reaching high enough?

Are you taking actions aligned with your beliefs?

Are you upleveling your beliefs… and upleveling your actions?

Because if you don’t spend any time reflecting on what’s possible – upleveling what’s possible – you’re going to end up with what IS and not what CAN be.

So, what do you think is possible for you? How high can you set your possibility bar?

Think BIG and share in the comments below!

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  1. Nita Avatar

    This is an insight Marissa.Besides I have experienced this myself.I only think about the first step and the possibility of it.Then I do it.I do not let the imagined impossibility of the second step prevent me from taking the first.

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      Nita – that’s a great insight. Don’t let the second step stop you from taking the first!

  2. Andrea Grigsby Avatar
    Andrea Grigsby

    I agree and resonate with so much of what you say. It is timely in what I believe I need to include this very message today. I am a specialist in mysofacial tissue in the body. I help people every day deal with chronic pain. My ability to assist people in reducing thier chronic pain is amazing (my clients words) and hence for every person I see two more people come. I turn people away every day. I can’t anwser my phone calls because there are too many, and my schedule is full with a waiting list. Just yesterday did a session in when I received double the average price for my profession in the local area. I keep reading I have to go from 1:1 to 1: to few and this is where I get stuck. I have even listen to an exact talk of yours on this many times and yet 9months later I feel no closer. I take responsibility for this. I keep trying something new because if you keep doing the same thing you get the same results. I have no idea how you would have time to respond to this comment with how large you already are but it is worth a shot. LOL.

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      Hi Andrea! Going from 1:1 to 1:few is a huge step and one that many of my clients struggle with. It’s a little too complex to go over in this comments section…I’d love to set you up on a phone call with our community manager Liberty – liberty (at) liveyourmessage (dot) com – if you reach out to her she can guide you in the right direction!

  3. Mary Tataryn Avatar
    Mary Tataryn

    Anything!.. step by step !

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      Exactly! Always keep climbing and raising the bar 🙂

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