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The Magic of Querencia: Getting Where You Want to Go by Being Where You Are

I’m at the Eiffel Tower Bridge in LA where, over the holidays, people hang all these little signs about where in the world they want to go.

I thought about where I want to go this year and my mind went back to an assignment in high school. The teacher asked us to write about the Spanish word Querencia which means “the longing or desire for home.”

I wrote that home is where your feet are and you know what? My essay won a bunch of awards 🙂

I truly believe that wherever you are in the world — whether you live out in the boonies, whether you live in a gigantic city like Paris or New York — you can make where you’re at, feel like home.

And you can make your business feel like home when you truly embrace exactly where you are, right here, right now and it’s not always about setting your sights on “over the rainbow” dreams and desires.

When you’re always thinking about something you don’t have yet, you’ll end up sabotaging your own happiness.

So, for me it’s all about the magic of Querencia — embracing that home is where your feet are, home is where you are right now on planet earth and in this particular moment of time because it paves the way for where you plan to go.

You can’t get “there” when you ignore where you are right now.

So, when I started to reflect on where I want to go this year, I realized I’m happy exactly where I am. I’m happy to be living in West Los Angeles. I’m happy where I am in my business right now, I’m happy where I am in my life and in my marriage and I’ve got so much to be grateful for right here, right now.

Sure, I’ll always want more! I want to become more and feel more and do more and achieve more…

But that desire for more starts with an acceptance of where I am.

Instead of always longing for the great beyond, longing to be in Paris, longing to be somewhere other than here, let’s see what happens when you’re grateful for exactly where you are.  

Let’s see how your life changes when you start to accept what you have and what you don’t have and just be thankful and realize that the feeling of “being home” comes from within.

Home is not a place. Home is a feeling that you’ve landed where you belong, and that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be at this moment in time. Nothing more nothing less.

Knowing that every single experience you’ve ever had up until now has led you right here, to this precise moment in time…  

That’s home.

Practice Querencia. Practice having that longing not for somewhere “beyond” but for where you are.

Home is where YOU are.

Welcome home, my friend. We’ve got a warm fire going, a cup of hot cocoa with marshmallows and a gigantic hug waiting for you

And here’s what I’d love for you to do…

Instead of thinking about all the places you want to go this year and all the things you want to do, stop, take a deep breath and then write, “I accept where I am right now” in your journal or on a piece of paper.

Try it and let me know in the comments…

How did it feel to accept, embrace and feel grateful for all of your accomplishments and wins, all of the pain and the “epic fails” and the heartache that brought you to where you are today?

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  1. Rich Andresen Avatar
    Rich Andresen

    Well done!

    Sis you have a draft of this video between the text presented and the presentation as videoed?

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      Hi Rich, not sure what you’re asking. Can you clarify?

  2. rauul balkar singh Avatar
    rauul balkar singh

    well i am sometime depressed as my son who is 26 yrs old is suffering from depression and it affect my job and family as i am a single father of 3 and i am looking where i can find an online jobs to satay home

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      I’m sorry to hear that Rauul 🙁 Have you considered starting your own business? Or do you already have one? We’ve got lots of resources to that could help you start or build a business so you can be home with your kids full time. Let me know! I’m happy to provide you with some great (free) resources <3

  3. Joanna Martin Avatar
    Joanna Martin

    I so love this! I am in tears! So true … so real! I am home and love all of the good and bad that happened last year. I learned so much and accomplished goals even through complete financial deviation. So, pausing to breathe, be grateful for it all… and just be for a moment in time!

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      Sorry to hear about those struggles Joanna, but I’m glad you’re processing them in such a healthy way 🙂 Keep it up!

  4. Jay Westbrook Avatar
    Jay Westbrook

    What a sweet and tender message.
    While it has nothing specifically or technically to do with marketing, it has absolutely everything to do with marketing-
    without Querencia, I’m unlikely to access or transmit joy, confidence, authenticity, service, or trust, and without those qualities I can’t imagine making the connections that allow for true comfort & success in my personal or professional life.
    Thank you.

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      Exactly Jay! Thanks for sharing and glad you enjoyed this 🙂

  5. Gina Avatar

    I wish I could feel this way, but I can’t. Home for me is, and always has been, where my dogs are. My dogs are both gone now, so through the veil, on the other side of it — where they are — is home. How does one get past that? I’m afraid I just don’t know.

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      Aw, Gina, I’m so sorry you’re missing your pups 🙁 They are part of the family for sure. But while they’ve crossed over, you’re still here and the next step in your journey is ready for you. And the further you lean into your journey, the more like “home” it will feel. You can do this… and we’re right here to cheer you on!

    2. Lois Avatar

      Hi Gina,

      Take the feeling of belonging and and being needed by your dogs and either get another dog, as I know many people who have done that or write out what your dogs meant to you so that it is tangible and reproducible as your desire and that will give you a goal for yourself. These are some ideas as I lost my two cats that kept me company over some isolated times. I appreciated and mourned them. For me it is time to move on and look for a human mate. For you it is important to give a loving memory its mourning time, then it is important to move on. Try not to stay stuck. Move your energy to the living who are here and would appreciate what you have to offer.

  6. Brad Avatar

    Great concept. Who doesn’t like home and wnat to be home, or feel like you are home whereever you are. Thanks for sharing Marisa. You continually demonstrate your passion and your mission – to live your message- and how to create an emotive ambience in your message that creates connection.

    With respect to Querencia it would marry well with the Japanese principle of Ikigai. You are certainly living out of your ikigai. Thanks for being authentic

    1. Marisa Murgatroyd Avatar
      Marisa Murgatroyd

      Aw thank you so much Brad! <3 And yes, I teach about Ikigai in several of our programs 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing!

  7. Norma Avatar

    Wow, Marissa, I’m so amazed at how much material you have for us and how truly and passionate are you to helping us all coming into this new world you know so well. Amazing message. I’m Hispanic and the word querencia can be apply to so much when you want to be positive in life. Very well said on your message, Marisa. I can’t wait to M2ML.

    Thank you Marisa.

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