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Mindset

Bridges and Roadblocks: The Key Distinction Separating Those Who Succeed from Those Who Struggle

By Marisa Murgatroyd

We just got through the biggest launch ever in our business for Experience Product Masterclass.

I (and the whole team) have learned so much in the past 3 weeks.  Over 23,000 people registered to watch the launch videos, and we had over 700 comments.  We’ve interacted with literally thousands of you via email, phone, chat and on webinars — and we’re so grateful to be surrounded by such an amazing tribe of people.

Interestingly enough, there’s been one thing that we noticed in interaction after interaction that I wanted to dedicate today’s blog post to.  And it’s a core distinction which I believe truly separates those who are succeeding from those are struggling in life and business.

 And that is… your choice of language.

Our words define our reality…

And you can either use words as a bridge that can help you get from where you are NOW to where you want to go….  Or as a roadblock so you’re constantly blocking your own path.

It goes for your interactions with other people too. You can use words can be a bridge to connect with your prospects, your customers and your tribe or as a roadblock that gets in the way of connection and intimacy, and prevents you from getting what you most want.

All of us use these destructive “roadblock” words at one time or another — when we’re angry or frustrated, stressed or overwhelmed… and mostly without even realizing it we undermine what we say we want, and what we wish for in life.

The danger is when you start to use the “roadblock” words on a daily basis to convince yourself of things that just aren’t true.

That you’re “not ready”.  That you “don’t have the money”.  Or you “don’t have enough time”.  Or pretty much any “reason” you can come up that prevents you from having the life you want.

And it’s an incredibly subtle thing…  so that’s why I’ve compiled this handy list of “bridge” words and “roadblock” words to print out so that you can become more aware of the way you literally speak yourself into success or struggle on a daily basis.

BRIDGE WORDS
ROADBLOCK WORDS
I am (resourceful, excited)
I am (as ready as I’ll ever be)
How can I? (afford this)
I will
I have (everything I need to)
I’m as ready as I’ll ever be
I’m committed to (moving forward)
I’m excited about
I love (making a difference)
I’m willing to (learn)
I’m grateful for .....
I love
I imagine
I am (broke, sick, disabled)
I’m not (ready)
I can’t afford this
I won’t
I don’t (have, want)
I’m not ready
I feel (stuck, overwhelmed)
I’m frustrated
I hate (marketing)
I’m not good at (technology)
I wish I had more
If only I had
That’s impossible

Over the last two weeks, we got long emails from people who were touched and moved by the Experience Product trainings we shared… and long excuses (full of “roadblock” words) as to why they couldn’t take the Masterclass and move forward in their business…

It’s like people were asking our permission to give up on their hopes and dreams….

And our standard response to these emails is:

Thank you for reaching out.

We’re so glad to hear you were moved and inspired by the training we shared with you.
We hear that you’re struggling right now and unable to move forward with your business in the way that you’d like to, and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us.
However, if you’re expecting us to validate your choice and give you permission not to move forward, we can’t do that.
At Live Your Message, we believe that you can create the life you want, no matter what’s going on….
We believe that there aren’t any valid excuses that can pull you away from living your highest, best life.
No matter what’s going on in your life, we’re here to support you in adopting a possibility mindset and shifting from “I can’t” to “I can”.
We’re here to believe in you even when you don’t believe in you.
As they say, what you focus on expands.
When you focus on problems, then you’ll have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, then you’ll have more opportunities.
We invite you to focus on the possibility and potential in your life in this challenging time.
Yes, you can.
Blue skies,
Shireen & the Live Your Message Team

So I invite you to become aware of the words you’re using… are you bridging to where you want to be?  Or are you blocking yourself from having anything more come into your life?

Are you focusing on problems?  Or possibilities?

Just like the famous cartoon, we all have an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other…. and the choice is yours which voice you listen to.

And as my friend Tim Barsky the playwright always used to say: “How far up are you willing to let your angels carry you and how far down will let your devils drag you?”

You can do whatever you set your mind to…

Now go out there, Live Your Message and don’t let anyone (most of all yourself) stop you from doing that.

Let me know in the comments your favorite bridge word or expression… or one a roadblock word or excuse you commit to let go of starting today?


P.S. If now is your time to Design, Market & Make (minimum) $2,000 from Your First Experience Product within 8 Weeks, there’s still a little remaining to join us in the Experience Business Masterclass … But you’ll need to be quick. Doors close finally on Thursday.

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